Picture the scene; you are on holiday by the pool or on the beach. It is a hot steamy day. Women barely wearing bikinis topping up their tans, some well defined guys playing beach volley ball. Into the scene walks a man wearing a T-shirt. He finds a place to settle down, and takes of his T-shirt to reveal a hot sweaty hairy back. What do think? Exactly, not a good look. Is that man you? Most women find a hairy back a bit of a turn off to say the least. You may have all the moves, but when you rip off your shirt in the heat of passion, a hairy back can throw a little cold water on the situation. True, this may not be the case for every woman, but I think it is fair to say that the majority of women consider the hairy back a turn off. Some hair on the chest, fine, but a walking hairy carpet, not so. I bet if you took an anecdotal survey in with the women in your office now, the results would bare me out.
So what are your options if you are of the hirsute type with a hairy back? The two main options are shaving for men, or wax for men. Shaving is the cheaper option, but can be fraught with difficulties and requires more regular maintenance to keep the back smooth, and to prevent itch. It can also make you look like you’ve just been given the cat ‘o nine tails on board The Bounty if you end up with too many cuts and nicks.
If you really want that smooth feeling then wax for men is the best option. More and more waxing salons and beauty spas cater for men, although it is always worth checking with them. In fact places such as The Refinery in London are solely for men.
This is going to hurt, but are you a man or a mouse. It shouldn’t be like the scene out of the “40 Year Old Virgin”, but the results far outweigh the pain. The pain is very much dependent on the length and strength of the hair, and the sensitivity of the skin. Some parts hardly hurt at all. Women have been waxing their legs for years, and they don’t put up a fuss. So bite down hard and take it like a man.
Some wax is gentler than others, so see if the wax salon offers different types of wax, and you may find some specially formulated for men. Also, the level of “discomfort” is very much dependent on the skill of the person doing the waxing. Some therapists do little strips at a time. Some layer the wax on large sections of the back before applying and removing the strips. Some therapists set to work at a fast rate, and before you know it it is all over and you are thinking was that it? After you have had the treatment a few times it gets easier and you’ll find a therapist that suits you. I would consider finding a place that offers the back wax for men as part of their menu of treatments. This mean they do lots of men, and have lots of experience dealing with waxing newbies. So lie there on your front, listen to the whale song and drop out in a zen like state while they get to work on some major waxing.
After the treatment they will probably apply a tea-tree oil or something similar and this can have a cooling and relaxing effect. You’ll feel smooth and even a little tingly, but you will look great for it. Give yourself a (gentle) pat on you back. It would have been worth it. You shouldn’t have a hot shower or bath over the next 24 hours, and avoid going out in the sun immediately, as the back is very sensitive.
You should maintain the treatment every 6-10 weeks depending on growth. If you are trying to save the pennies, then you could try some home treatments. There are plenty of home wax for men treatments to buy, and it is worth doing this when the hair is still fairly short, a few millimetres or enough for the hair to stick to the wax so it can be pulled out. It should be less painful. You will require a willing volunteer to do the waxing, and there are plenty of home waxing kits. You never know, your partner maybe more than willing to offer their services. On their part they get 2 advantages (1) they no longer have to go to bed with a yeti (2) they can inflict legitimate pain on you – which may be somewhat therapeutic for them. I would certainly visit the wax salon every few months to get it done really well.
Revealing a smooth, hairless back to a partner can be a special surprise, and while they may “love you the way you are” (yeah!) they are gonna love you even more now oh hairless one.
So go on, give it a go. No pain, no gain – and it will give you added confidence, especially I you have been self conscious about a hairy back, and leave you feeling smoother and happier.